Get out of abuse for the sake of the life you’re meant to live
Oppression in our world, our workplace, and our homes
there’s a lot of oppression in our own homes and it’s interesting how a lot of people get away with it. there’s a lot of oppression in our workplace and people get away with it as well. it’s not okay and i want the WORLD to know that. it’s not okay you continue abusing our children, our husbands, our wives, our brothers, our sisters, our elders. it’s not okay and there’s another way. this is priority. no one is better than the other. it’s not okay for someone to think they are better than the other, thus take advantage of the other because of age, culture, status, money, education. ever! i see this too often in a grocery store where the manager is ridiculing an employee in front of his co-workers and customers because of a mistake he made. a husband whose telling his wife that she is stupid in front of other people and tears start to roll down her eyes because of the hurt and embarrassment she just experienced. or a business executive being completely impatient and belittling to an agent whose trying to serve them while they bark down orders on them. who do people think they are when they do this. geez either they don’t know any better or they think this is okay.
we need to change and fight against this kind of treatment. this is unacceptable. speak up if you see this, change if you do this.
in our world, i believe there are a lot of people not reaching their full potential because they let others control them. and the controllers are preoccupying themselves with controlling others than doing more productive things in their lives. people are telling each other what to do as if they knew exactly what was in the other’s heart, what the OTHER’S purpose in life was.
Live your life
people need to get away from this codependent state and move on. make something actually happen, go forth in your own heart, and find out who you are meant to be, what you are meant to do. this is a scary thing to do, so people just say, let me listen to what so and so is saying. let me do what they are saying. they must know. you are procrastinating. you are scared. you know they don’t know. but you hope they do know. you know, or you have an inkling of what you’re supposed to do, but you’re afraid of what others may think.
gosh, too many people in this world are afraid of what others think. i’m here to tell you, to challenge you, what difference does it make what others think. how does it really affect your situation or your life. does it really have an effect on your life? have you ever questioned or considered that it means nothing and changes nothing in your life? nothing. has nothing to do with you? has nothing to do with your dreams, goals, desires? What other people think obstructs your path in no way, unless you let it… and you don’t have to let it. it’s nothing.
Learning to not care what others think
i’m here to teach you the art of doing exactly what you want to do and others opinions not having an effect on you. consider this: you are your own person, your own thoughts, your own body, you make your own decisions. okay some of you might’ve never made your own decisions before, or you think you’re making your OWN decisions, when in fact, you’re making decisions based on what you know others will like. these are still not your own decisions. so how it should be is that you choose where you want your life to go. no one else, no matter who is yelling at you, belittling you, telling you you can’t, in your own soul and mind, you truly have the power to make a decision that is completely your own. let’s start with that.
so now in the face of all this opposition in the world, because to be honest with you, this world does not support something different, something unusual. this world actually wants you to be like everyone else. everyone likes the norm because it’s what’s familiar. people don’t like seeing others taking the courageous and scary leap of faith toward their TRUE potential and dreams because then it makes others have to reconsider how they are living their own lives and makes them feel guilty that perhaps they are not moving forward to their true potential.
A thing about bad habits
people get into habits, it’s easy, familiar, you don’t have to put much work into it. even if it’s a habit or familiarity to being abused, to being told what to do, even when it’s something negative, if it’s a habit, it’s how your life has been for some time, it’s what you know or ALL that you know. so in a twisted way, it feels good because it’s familiar. it’s what you seek because it’s all you know.
The POWER we hold
humans actually have this amazing power in themselves that they can DECIDE to tap into. the power is the ability to learn, to choose, to discover, to change, to act in bravery in the midst of unbelievable fear. you know this because of stories of strangers helping strangers in the face of death, people who have lost important parts of their bodies and learning how to function just like everyone else, a child locked up throughout childhood in the most slummiest environment and finding a sense of purpose and living a fulfilled adult life. there have been people who have been victims of unspeakable crimes, that have DECIDED to face their fears, their perpetrators and have decided to be a voice for victims who haven’t stepped out yet to regain their lives back.
we are powerful, we can do what we want. we were meant, each and every one of us for something meaningful. that gave us and others real meaning in our lives…
now, how can we let anyone control us, put us down, tell us we’re stupid, tell us we can’t, if we are and were meant to be the most powerful creatures in the earth together. how can we let another human being tell us what to do, tell us what’s in our hearts, tell us what we’re meant to be, tell us that we are nobody. treat us like we’re nobody, treat us with disrespect.
no human deserves disrespect from anyone, no matter who they are or what they’ve done. these people who don’t have the right to talk down to you and tear you apart include your husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, mother, father, relatives, well meaning friends. unfortunately, humans aren’t perfect, so although you may look up to these people, if they are hurting you, it’s not okay. it may be the hardest thing to tell someone after so many years of not saying anything that what they’re doing is not okay and they need to stop. no matter how hard it is you’re worth it and it’s never too late. you are not second to them, you are not inferior, you are a real person and god dangit, put them in their place. some people have their own dark side to deal with and they have no right to take things out on you. and be very aware their ability to manipulate, use guilt trip on you, or tell you you have no idea what you’re talking about. the thing about emotional abuse and psychological abuse is that it’s sometimes hard to put your finger on what’s going on. even though you might not know exactly what’s going on, if you’re being hurt, if your mind is being played with, get out of that relationship!
Revealing the weakness of abusers
people abusing us may say, i’m just teaching them a lesson, they are stupid, they know nothing else. they deserved it. NO!!! leave these people alone, life your own life and leave these people alone. how did you get to the point to think you’re above everyone else or that you’re above this person. perhaps you have your own problems of looking at yourself and seeing your own problems, so you make a problem in other people’s lives. Abusers find someone who is suffering in self-esteem and further attack that person’s self-esteem to build their own self-esteem. is this something to be proud of. you abusers, you should all be ashamed of yourselves!
Abuse in our homes
i’m bringing awareness to all abuse. abuse in our own families. where no matter how beautiful a family looks, no matter how happy a family may seem, you will NEVER EVER know if there is abuse in their own private homes unless you are part of the family. the tough thing is people are great pretenders. there is so much embarrassment, guilt, and denial, they it would be unbearable if someone found out, so these families become great pretenders and the abusers follow along because they know nothing else. you can visit a home and never know.
Abuse in our workplace
abuse in our workplace. oh especially our workplace where there are distinct ranks. no matter what level CEO, means nothing. you cannot disrespect or abuse any employee. you can work together, work towards one goal, but you cannot make someone feel they are less of a person than you are. you have no right to tell someone they are stupid. you have no right to be so impatient with another human being, when in fact you are in need of patience as well because you too are not perfect. you cannot manipulate someone into thinking they belong to you. you cannot refuse someones right to say no or to speak up or to make their own decisions. you have no right to spread rumors about certain employees you think are stupid because truly you have no idea the power this person holds. you are just extremely limited in your thinking by thinking you are someone on a higher human level. you are not, so speak with respect and treat every one of your employees with dignity.
i’m shocked how people put other people down and that people just take it. you don’t need them, there is a life away from this kind of treatment and you can attain it if you want.
Learning how to live your life
it’s going to be hard because your self-esteem has been attacked, you might not have the tools to be independent just yet, but you can learn them very quickly because your were born with them, that’s how it’s meant to be. you might not have people who support you around you just yet, so it’ll be hard, everyone will say no, everyone will make you think what you’re doing is not right. but any cause to save a life is right.
How to take the first step to FREEDOM
you move forward, you ignore what everyone says, you ignore what you think they might think, you ignore those negative voices in your head that truly aren’t yours but the years of unjust control, you ignore the negative feelings, you ignore the weakness, the fear, the doubt, the guilt you might feel, you ignore it all because that’s what you need to do to move forward. everything in your body is saying i want what’s familiar it’s easy, it’s what i’ve known, but find that little voice in your soul that tells you, “you know this isn’t the life you’re meant to live.” you move forward, answering no questions in your mind or from others that are only meant to make you fall, you move forward for the sake of who you’re meant to be. for the joy you’re meant to experience. for the blessings you’re meant to receive. you will receive a double blessing. you suffered enough. you will receive joy, love and happiness. ignore all the feelings that say it’s not possible. just move forward to the unknown besides what is known is probably the worse it could be. there’s no where to go but up. go go go. nowhere to go but up. nothing else to do but take a step forward for your life.
Time to make a positive change 